So I became fairly recent aware and confident enough to accept my inner self being a woman instead of a man, like my body. All of my friends are super affirming and supportive, and I totally love them for having them!

But thats the good side of it all. There is the bad side as well.

Just randomly, during a quite boring company online meeting, I scrolled through some toots, listend to some music and to their presentation, I got such a severe anxiety attack. I don’t know why, or what I could do. I was just bawling my eyes out. All those negative emotions of just being different, that there are groups in our society that dont accept us or even worse attack us hit me all at once.

It was utterly horrible. I sat there in my chair for atleast 10 minutes, unable to do anything but cry and destroy my mind.

Then I got a smidge of courage and joined my friends (who also happen to be colleagues from the same team) discords voice chat. Just expressing that I’m fricking awful and telling them about it. How I feel and all, but unable to determine a trigger. Sure they couldn’t really “help” me, giving me advice or whatever. But that they were just listening, and understanding was already enough to get me out of that awful hole.

I am so lucky that I have them, just one click away.

Sorry for the ramblings, but I just had to somewhat write all of that shit down.

  • ShaunaTheDead@kbin.social
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    It’s easier to ignore gender dysphoria when you haven’t yet felt gender euphoria, so naturally, this is a pretty new feeling for you in both directions. The dysphoria sucks big time, but maybe it will help to remember that feeling low sometimes is part of the ride.

    Also, don’t feel like people need to actually help you. Just venting to someone you can trust and having a big cry about it is about all you can do when you’re feeling overwhelmed by the dysphoria. Welcome to actually dealing with your feelings instead of shoving it down to deal with later (or never)! lol

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      Welcome to actually dealing with your feelings instead of shoving it down to deal with later (or never)! lol

      It’s certainly a new one for me, thats for sure. In the past I always tried to bury my feelings. My dad always used to say that “Indians don´t feel pain” (its a german proverb). Such utter bollucks and harmful thing to say. So yeah, actually living throw the highs and lows. I love the highs, but i certainly have to learn to live but not repress the lows. They are also valid.