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The original was posted on /r/AmItheAsshole by /u/Alarmed_Translator75 on 2023-08-05 13:00:29.

My wife [25F] and I [31M] bought a house together about six months ago. This is our first time living together.

Our house is an old American house that has been reformed many times. As a consequence of this, it has a silly layout where there are two bathrooms right next to each other that share the same wall. When we pulled the trigger on buying it, we made an agreement that I’d take the bathroom on the left with the shower and she’d take the bathroom on the right with a bathtub. Hers is much more spacious than mine.

I soon learned though that my wife preferred to use my bathroom, but only to defecate. She’ll go pee or take a bath or do her makeup in her bathroom, but when the time comes to have a bowel movement, she only wants to use my toilet. I usually wouldn’t mind this, but the issue is that she sits very far forward on the seat which leaves streaks in the bowl virtually every time she goes.

I first tried approaching this civilly by asking why she used my bathroom. She gave me a vague answer about preferring it. Then I asked if she could at least sit back a bit more. She said it was none of my concern how she sat on the toilet. I offered to change bathrooms with her, to which she said no thanks. Then I asked her to stop using it and she said it was her house too so she should be allowed to go wherever she wants.

I’m honestly tired of opening the toilet lid to see her stool stuck to the bowl. The day before yesterday I installed a lock on the door that I could open with a key. At first she didn’t seem to take the hint. She asked me for a key for the bathroom, to which I said no. Then (as she really had to go) she started to panic and asked me again and again to open it. I told her that she has a perfectly good toilet in her bathroom. She finally relented but came out of the bathroom extremely upset with me.

She’s been ticked off and demanding that I remove the lock since. Was I out of line here?