Sometimes I enjoy talking to feminists and misandrists. It helps me to understand their viewpoints. Some feminists are open to debate and some are not. I don’t try to change their minds. It can be pretty toxic.

I was messaged by feminists on reddit. They read my post history. I haven’t said anything misogynistic. They called me an “incel” and a “misogynist”. I remained calm when they hurled insults. If I lashed out, it would prove to them I am a misogynist. They want their opponents to get angry.

One woman who messaged me said she is proud to be a misandrist. She said men are worthless, driven by hormones, and many other nonsense things. She also said women don’t perpetrate domestic violence. Eventually I got her to calm down and she became more respectful.

I think a lot of feminists misunderstand what MRAs believe in and want. There was a question in the r/askfeminists sub if feminists would collaborate with MRAs. Many of the feminists said no. One commenter said MRAs are misogynists. Another said men are not oppressed, so there’s no need for MRAs. Some people hate us for doing the right thing.

Some feminists have told me there’s a difference between feminists and misandrists. Most feminists think they’re normal people. I think some misandrists use feminism to their benefit. Governments and corporations definitely use feminism against men.

I don’t know too many feminists in real life. I don’t talk about feminism or politics with the women I know. It is silently understood that most people believe in equality. I’m also an egalitarian.

After knowing about men’s issues, I don’t want to pretend like they don’t exist. If I started dating a feminist, I don’t think my political views would align with hers. I’m not sure if it would be a good idea to talk about men’s issues.

Do you think it’s better to avoid dating women who identify as feminists? If you date a feminist, is it a good idea to talk about men’s issues?

  • Throwaway@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    Really depends on the woman more than anything. A lot of people say they are progressive/feminist/democrat/etc because they’ve been told that good people are these things, and they’ve never really thought about why.

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      1 year ago

      This. Many women (especially young ones) haven’t thought too deeply about the matter, and have simply swallowed the propaganda that feminism is for gender equality. If the woman you’re wanting to date is one of those, I don’t necessarily see a problem. But if she’s regurgitating misandrist nonsense, then avoid like the plague.