• Unmarketable Plushie@pawb.social
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    1 year ago

    Generally considering that “dude” is a somewhat masculine word, so using it to refer to someone with she/her pronouns in her username (implying that she doesn’t want to be referred to with male terms) without knowing if they’re okay with that word just makes you look like a piece of shit.

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      1 year ago

      No the fuck it’s not. It’s used for everyone, it’s been used for everyone for decades at this point. Throwing a tantrum over being called a dude is plain fucking stupid, no girl I know takes issue with being called a dude, and they call each other dude. Shit’s genderless a f.

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        1 year ago

        First of all, this thread is like, a month old? Why even bother responding to me at this time?

        Anyway, “dude” is rarely gender neutral. Here are the two main definitions on Wikitionary:

        1. (chiefly US, Canada, colloquial) A man, generally a younger man.
        2. (colloquial, used in the vocative) A term of address for someone, typically a man, particularly when cautioning them or offering advice.

        So yeah, totally a gender neutral word. /sarcastic

        And it’s pretty obvious where the dogwhistle is, calling someone with she/her pronouns clearly listed a “dude” in a disparaging tone. Going “oh but it’s a gender neutral term” has the exact same level of insufferable, bad-faith smugness as an edgy 14-year old claiming that the swastikas they’re scrawling on their desk are actually Buddhist symbols.