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How can people so mean?

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How can people so mean?

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Casual Conversation @lemm.eeEnglish · 3 hours ago

I just entered a text message chat from the group of students of my course, and after talking a there over some days with a sophomore (most of the chat was just me interacting with someone else) someone replied after some time “wow, the freshmen are really getting acquainted, writing shit and what else”. That was so out pocket, closed the app and now I am ranting here, is this still kind of behavior normal in your uni/country? Its so bizarre, the guy was just sophomore. EDIT: thanks everyone for the replies, I appreciate them, I think there’s some grow on my part to be done, because this seems to be way more common than I think. Welp, kinda of a bummer anyway.

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I think you were maybe expecting a more grown up environment and you didn’t get one. I’m a Phd Candidate and people can still be so random in how they speak to others. I too can easily get annoyed at such. Maybe we are both sensitive, but others rarely considers how they speak affects those around them.

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