So communicate with your spouse. Absolutely no one’s saying you need to do everything yourself. Ideally it’s 50/50, even if the 50’s don’t look the same.

Also, not saying this is your case, but sometimes when I feel like I’m the person doing everything I’ll ask my spouse to remind me of their 50. It’s easy for me to see what I do and when I’m low it feels harder to see what they do. So I tell them I’m having a myopic moment and ask them to point out some of their 50 to knock me out of it.