I don’t know whether random is the right answer… We’ve already seen a little drama on the lemmy.ml instances based on one of the server operators preferences. I think people will naturally go to other instances. The server operators effectively determine what belongs and what doesn’t in the instance, and that can change based on their whims. I am against a default but a random server selected automatically seems like a weird roulette.

The power structure of Lemmy instances is like a fiefdom, the admins hold the effective power to select what users and what discussions is allowed within their server they rule. Some rulers are generous and benevolent, some are strict, some are hostile, some are laissez-faire except for certain peculiarities. If you don’t like any of them, then be the ruler of your own kingdom that you create and communicate with the other lords from your throne.