Hellooo First post. I need to vent to the internet as I feel shockingly terrible.

So i saw my GP to discuss the next step towards transition. She pointed me to a nearby (as rural areas go) doctor who knows about gender affirming care which is very cool.

During that she asked, just out of curiousity, if i was going to “socially transition” before or after medically transitioning.

For me, Ive decided to do so afterwards. Its just mentally painful for me to call myself a women while I look like the bloater from state of decay 2. Thats a terrible and comical way to put it but its how i feel and thats the image conjured in my mind.

I think its essentially that changing pronouns does very little for me while I am still a man physically speaking. And most its maybe a nice bump in happy chemicals and then a quick realisation that indeed I am still a man so i just feel terrible again.

Anyway, hope you have a nice day/evening :)

  • Tywèle@piefed.socialEnglish
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    24 days ago

    The paths we take can be so different. I came out when I was almost 31 and socially transitioned completely in the following 2 months and then started HRT 4 months after that. I just couldn’t wait to tell everyone about it, haha. It also was very apparent that something changed when I went from full beard to clean shaven after having a full beard for like 10 years.

    • Hildegarde@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
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      23 days ago

      And I was scared as to how people would react, hence delaying the coming out part. Fortionately I keep good company so it was pretty much a non-issue.

      I also had long hair and was clean shaven for over a decade. Would have been nice if I asked myself why I liked looking like that… but no not for a long while.

      I could have been much more overt with my transition. Might have been better, who knows. But it was important to stick with what I was comfortable with.