I have 3 kids. The most tired I had ever been was working a dead end job in my 20s.

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    1 month ago

    Some people might have luck, but a newborn doesn’t care when night or day is, and can wake every two hours and need care. Its the most exhausting thing most parents go through…says the parents group we belonged to. Its why some people hire an after birth doula, and why multi generational families in one home is a huge help.

    It was honestly more exhausting than working 55-60 hours a week and doing my nightschool program at the same time.

    There’s a reason sleep deprivation is used in torture

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      You realize I don’t say that new borns can’t be exhausting?
      I’m saying it’s not the only reason in existence.
      I believe you were exhausted and sleep deprived and I’m sorry it was this hard for you.
      Can’t you believe other people can be exhausted, sleep deprived, out of energy too and even for different reasons?

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        Of course, if you reread my comment I mentioned other random jobs may also do that.

        I have seen people say sleep deprivation from mental health can also be exhausting af . The difference with a self issue is a doctor can often prescribe a sleeping pill so you can get rest. But a parent can’t choose that if they don’t have a person they can rely on for child care in the night.

        For another example my wife has a disability, she works 2-3 hours and drives home, so mentally and physically tired that she pulls over about halfway home and sleeps at the side of the road for half hour, before continuing the journey. She is that exhausted.

        Now imagine somebody else controls when she could take that needed sleep time.