I was there, I saw the thread. @TheDude, did you? It was pretty strongly in favour. Do we really need to keep waiting around to see if an instance administrated by a guy who wants to declare “cis” a slur is going to turn out okay?

https://sh.itjust.works/post/216888 for context.

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    This is a tough call. I see where you’re coming from, I really do, but saying things like “target for the next genocide” really isnt going to win over anyone on the fence.

    Edit: I do live in one of the most trans friendly places in Canada though. If you’re from the southern states (or worse) I can see why it’d feel that way.

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      I have a non-binary kid. It’s not an exaggeration or imagination. People have made death threats against them. They’re under twelve years old.

      You only think it’s exaggerated because you’re sheltered from it.

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        I’m not saying anyone is imagining things. I’m very sorry to hear your child has gone through that but it’s good you are supportive of them.

        I’m not sheltered from it. Believe it or not I have enby and trans friends. I have heard stories, I know there are awful people out there, that’s not what I’m saying.

        My point is, as an alley, if I pause when I read it phrased that way, just imagine how the people who are already struggling to understand will read it.

        You know what I mean?

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          You having those friends doesn’t mean you’re not sheltered if you live in a place where it’s not happening as much.

          You mentioned the southern states so you know what’s going on it just isn’t in your face or affecting you, hence “sheltered”.

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            Well I’ve heard a lot worse from other continents, but call me sheltered if you want, miss my pont, that’s fine. No I don’t have a non-binary kid in the states, that sounds rough, I’m sorry.

            All I’m saying is maybe on place like this with clearly more diverse viewpoints (a good thing) I’m mindful on how the “other side” might read those words and take the problem less seriously as a result.

            I hope your kid is doing well and that you both stay safe.