I don’t know how else to describe it, but all my male friends and family are very unemotional. Not in the sense that they don’t feel anything, but that they are a lot better at handling them and I feel like I’m not. I’ve tried meditation, therapy, healthy eating and a better sleep schedule but nothing works. I still anger and get upset at the smallest things and I feel like I’m less masculine than my friends. Im even known as the super emotional guy in the group and they often tease me about it, which makes things worse. My family constantly talk down to me as I don’t work out much and am very thin and short while my younger bros are jacked and tall. I don’t know what to do and really needed to get this off my chest. Thank you.
if your anxiety is running crazy it’s doing so for a reason
Often that reason is you keep dismissing the part of yourself whose entire purpose is to protect you from danger
What do you expect it to do but get worse? You’re ignoring the alarm bell, all it can do is ring louder and harder.
“regulating” that signal is the exact wrong response, even in extreme cases. You need your fear and anxiety to regulate itself to be properly tuned to the danger you need to be aware of, which means more communication with your self, not less.
Wholeheartedly disagree. This is an unhealthy attitude to take.
Regulating your own actions is an important skill, and seeing and understanding how those actions relate to those emotions, that as well.
But your emotions are part of you, they are a part that deserves to be listened to and respected, and nothing in your response indicates you put in effort to do that.
Which makes sense. We, as men, are not at any point given the time or space to do so, and are often just physically beaten if our emotions are ever a problem for other people. It makes sense that repression and controlling them becomes the go-to for most
Doesn’t make it right (or healthy)