This is just a concern I had with the client. Back during the good ol’ Reddit days, I get notified about a post/comment reply immediately when it happens. I have since left that website, and for some reason I don’t know why this isn’t a feature yet.
And yes I have tried Connect for Lemmy, I had major problems with that app.
In my case, I almost always reply to a comment unless I’m in the very rare situation of having nothing to say. I’ve been like this on Reddit, too.
I guess you win some and you lose some.