• sramder@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    “Son I’m going in for cancer surgery tomorrow. Everything will be fine… take care of your father, you know he’s basically useless on his own.”

    Literally 2 days ago. Don’t worry, she’s fine.

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      4 months ago

      Mom did this to me also. On the same day of her radical mastectomy. I had no idea she had breast cancer.

      The surgery went ok at least.

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        Probably didn’t know how to tell you she might die. They really don’t give you much advice on how to talk to people… in my case it was literally a grade school style fill-in-the-blanks in-case-surgery-leaves-you-a-vegetable tell them we can have your organs work-book.

        But also likely a bit of narcissism… I’m sorry. Nobody she find out that way.

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          Cancer charities such as McMillan’s will tell you. Obviously the hospitals went and even if they did they’d probably charge you for the service.

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            4 months ago

            Assuming went=wont… I’m still not following. Cancer charaties will tell you what?

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              They have guidance on how to talk to people about it. The hospital may or may not have counselors on staff but if they don’t you can always talk to the charities