How am I supposed to date as an asexual introverted 24 y/o man? Been on dating apps for months and I haven’t gotten a single match, and going out to meet ppl scares me… Am I doomed?

  • Seigest@lemmy.caEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I’ll give you one piece of advice that helped me when my social anxiety was at its worst.

    Volunteer. You’ll be around good people. Probably ain’t going to find your soul mate but it’s a good first step to getting comfortable around other and maybe building a social network.

    I did work for a outdoor theater event myself. Even my gaint, awkward, and potenally autistic self enjoyed it. And the confidence I gained from it helped a lot in my career even now over a decade later.

    It also help me in dating, I had the confidence to at least get dates. Though I didn’t know being ace was a thing I was allowed to be. so I never really got past date one. But at least I got to try out a lot of restaurants.

    • _angryplankton_@programming.devOPEnglish
      2·
      1 year ago

      Sorry for responding so late but this is a brilliant idea. I’ve thought about it but I think I’m gonna end the summer with some volunteer work.

      • Seigest@lemmy.caEnglish
        3·
        1 year ago

        Hope it works out for you. Remember the best part of volunteering is that it’s not as commital as paid work, you can take things slow and talk with your fellow volunteers. And if it’s not working out just go do somthing else. Let no one boss you around and actually have fun.