• tryptaminev 🇵🇸 🇺🇦 🇪🇺@feddit.de
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    11 months ago

    Because things like choking someone almost to death, or getting choked are concerning expressions of a damaged psyche. Also unrealistic expectations can cause more frustration on both ends, were people feel unable to meet these expectations and people fail to realize their expectations to be unrealistic.

    So in all we could see a development of people having less sex, having less enjoyable sex and using sex to cope with serious mental issues instead of getting help, while society is ignoring problematic soxietal developments by shoving them into sexuality and declaring it as just being liberated kinkyness.

    None of these are absolutes and there is many positive changes happening too, but we need to understand sex tastes and sex behaviour to be a reflection of individuals and society, where problems will also show that we need to adress

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      11 months ago

      I see you are a friend of bold claims with nothing to back them up. But I would encourage you to read Marquis de Sade if you think we are getting too Kinky. What I see is humans being less afraid to try out and live out their sexual fantasies and therefore having a more full filling sex life.

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        11 months ago

        You misunderstood me then. Nowhere did i say it is bad or good. I said it needs to be understood as a mirror of people and their society and the underlying issues need to understood.

        But yes there is limits to kinkyness. Some years back a guy got convicted because he strangled a woman to death during initially consensual SM sex. He claimed it easnt intentional. He tried to argue in court that sex and death belong together and they found more than 1000 porn videos in his computers with women being killed during sex. If we get to that, then it went too far.

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          Nowhere did i say it is bad or good.

          If we get to that, then it went too far.

          So wich one is it, did we go too far or is it neither good or bad?

          There is no issue, people have Kinky fantasy, just read some older sex fiction. Even classics as Anaïs Nin can be rather dark. We are just less suppressed by societal norms and are able to share them more freely. And if someone has a problem of separating fiction, fantasy and reality - that is a whole other story, but Salinger is not responsible for Lennons death.

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            11 months ago

            So wich one is it, did we go too far or is it neither good or bad?

            The development in its entirety is neither good or bad, but it needs to be understood, as to why such fringe cases occur.

            Is it so hard to understand that the world isnt just black or white?

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              The development in its entirety is neither good or bad, but it needs to be understood, as to why such fringe cases occur.

              Sex related violence did not occure before? What development are you talking about? People being more open about their sexual fantasies?

              Is it so hard to understand that the world isnt just black or white?

              You are the one who is bringing judgment in - so why are you asking me?