Those are excuses. I took selfies and found my girlfriend of two years on a dating app. I learned how to pose myself and present a good image. One of the pictures is a major factor in why she started talking to me in the first place. My expression and eyes were what she liked.
I have body image issues, I had no one to help me, I have depression and anxiety, and I got it done. No one is asking men to move the earth. Women are just asking for them to give it a try and show that they give a shit.
It’s not culture wars, it’s men failing to even try a little bit to even look interested.
We are talking about a specific issue between a certain type of man and that is being complained of by a certain type of woman.
The issue is between straight men and women. I could add several qualifiers (we aren’t talking about metro sexual rakes for instance), but I think most people are aware of the type of men that fall into the categories we are discussing.
I was pointing out that any one can do what I did. A data point of one doesn’t mean much, sure. But unless a person has some disability they should be able to take a decent picture of themselves. We’ve had good digital cameras in our pockets for over a decade, it’s your own fault if you don’t learn how to use it.
What does fertility rate have to do with relationships? Sounds like a conservative/ incel talking point to me.
Apps and the algorithms suck for a lot of reasons, but they aren’t going away and we have to adapt.