You are not a terrible person for having these thoughts. Talk about them with people you trust, be open with professionals. You can feel better about this.
As a dominant sadist, I faced similar feelings myself. Is what I do morally ok? Done with care and a consenting partner, it absolutely is.
They can see our lifestyle is more fun, but they are too scared of change to let themselves enjoy it.
They do have a point though, the only person that can truly validate your identity is you.
Yep, I’ve found it really comes down to setting the right intentions up front, and being selective in who you play with. My goal was never to be on Grindr forever, but that’s where I had to go to meet fun kinky trans people in my area.
No, I don’t count hookups as relationships, especially not long term relationships. But when they turn into significantly more than that, I do. I don’t need to defend my relationships though.
My definition is relationships I’ve been in for a good while that I intend to stay in. Why the personal attacks though? Seems pretty rude for no reason.
You’d be surprised… I currently have two LTRs that started as Grindr hookups…
Someone can’t get catgirls to pay attention to them… I feel sorry for you.
I’m always looking for a fun little project, I could dev that into a desktop app or website if you wanted.
I started at 39, and two and a half years in am starting to see more of the results I want. It takes time, but it only gets better from where you are at.
I’ll start giving them two weeks when they start giving people two weeks after they fire them.
That depends on a lot of things. Sometimes they are, sometimes they aren’t.
It works because my partners aren’t completely dependent on me for emotional and physical needs. I am able to focus on the parts of relationships I want or need, and my partners are free to find the same with others.
If I’m having a bad day I have three people I can count on to love and support me, and I’m able to celebrate my successes three times. I’m almost never alone in supporting my partners and that helps take so much pressure off me and the relationship.
There’s also absolutely no energy wasted worried if someone is cheating on me, instead I feel great for them when they find a partner that they really like. Poly is different than what most people are used to, but it’s really working for me and my partners.
That’s all really tough. I transitioned at 40. I completely understand feeling like you wasted a good portion of your life. You are a lot younger than you realize still. Your life is far from over, you will achieve your goals, and many more.
I produce electronic music, if you ever want some help or advice or to collaborate on something shoot me a message, I’d be happy to help you create something amazing.
Yes, everyone should join us.
We know…
We just don’t care.