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    I think people should really read books like digital minimalism by cal Newport, stolen focus, surveillance capitalism, your brain on porn ecc to understand how social medias (but the internet in general) IS DESIGNED to be addictive, and what are the addictive traits.

    Lemmy is definitely better but still holds some concepts from addictive social medias (not because of developers fault, I think they just tried mimicking popular socials, since these are born as “alternatives”). Infinite scrolling and upvotes are just two examples.

    Some frontends do a great job leaving power to the user in that, like eternity, but I think a lot more consciousness should be raised on the topic and, at least in the open source / federated community there should be some guidelines on how to design social medias just as useful tools while minimizing distractions/useless/addictive parts.

    It’s great to be decentralized, it’s great to avoid ads, profilation and targetization, but we can do better in designing really new and useful tools starting from certain principles.




  • Have you checked out other types of therapies? Not all therapies are the same and not all medicines are the same!

    You might just be missing what works for you! Don’t get discouraged, I have been in therapy for 4 years and only after this time I understood that my therapist doesn’t make it for me anymore!

    I have PTSD from childhood trauma and from what I’ve read many therapists focus on other symptoms without actually addressing the core trauma.

    Currently changing therapy with a microdosing friendly Gestalt therapist! Just the fact of standing for myself in one of the ugliest times makes me feel so proud.

    Whatever you do, don’t stop trying and don’t stop seeking for alternative solutions. Think about how you managed to live with all this pain until now, and how strong you are for that. Most of the others cannot know how much strength is required to deal with such emotions.

    Think if one day you will unlock this all, think how many beautiful things you could do with the consciousness of how it feels to actually feel bad!







  • I thought about Nix, it is indeed cool to declaratively install stuff and it would indeed be very helpful to set system settings all from one file so that you control everything there, but I don’t think that’s what I need, I think I’d need a more focused desktop environment maybe?

    Kiosk environments could be a solution, because once the UI is limited, you can install software in any way you like and from any distro really, I think the focus is to keep it minimal under the hoods and very simple on the surface!



  • Thank you so much for sharing, so what’s a mood stabilizer? Is it like lithium? Or something less potent?

    My therapist also says I have really big spikes both up and down, so that could be more suitable maybe…

    I just can’t trust a psychiatrist that simply doesn’t know me and cannot trust pharmaceutical industries as well… Also I’m scared as hell for possible side effects since I already have very mild tinnitus which I don’t want to make any worse, and long term side effects scare the hell out of me even more. I’m also scared as fuck to lose my libido. I spent years and years in holding myself back and never actually enjoying sex until a few months ago… Since relationships were always too painful and I resorted to porn most of the times, which killed my libido and my sex drive towards real partners as well… When you have PTSD you kinda have few choices: live with your pain, find ways to continuously vent out your stress or numb yourself out, I numbed myself for years and only lately I’m trying to live with my pain and venting the stress with sport, which is terrible but also gave me back some joy as well, and the sport part is amazing both for my body and for my general wellbeing…

    I kinda feel trapped in this situation… My therapist also said we would be able to work better on the trauma once I start taking a medicine…




  • I think one of the problems is actually I’m lacking sugars and I frequently go in hypo, I do plenty of sports and don’t eat anything sweet except for some fruits.

    Yesterday I measured glicemy AFTER having had a snack like an hour before and it was 76, which is fine but on an empty stomach, it’s supposed to be >100 after eating…

    I will try again when I feel those strong symptoms like some evenings ago when I couldn’t even think clearly and I was feeling like I was almost passing out.

    For now it looks like when I’m really really down, I eat something sugary like juice fruit and I feel immediately better.

    I think this is definitely playing a role, but got to investigate further and correlate with measurements.