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Cake day: March 21st, 2024

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  • Sounds like some depression.

    It seems like a little buyers remorse - the house and what it represents. There’s an adjustment going on and it’s not going well for you.

    I’m going through something similar and I’m looking at your post feeling a little envious. A wife? Sounds good. I’m struggling just to make friends. A house? Wow. I’m renting a small room and had to buy a loft bed to make more space.

    I’m definitely not saying this to make you feel better by comparing yourself to me.

    It seems like you know that your life is good but that you’re not feeling it.

    My life is definitely better than it was but I’m definitely feeling the absence of having someone close to me. I know that’s improving but it’s definitely not helping me feel better.

    All I can do is try to focus on what I have and on what is going well. It’s really kinda awful because it doesn’t work well. The quiet moments are the worst.

    I’m trying to change up a couple of things, such as adding in a few minutes of meditation and physical activity each day. Nothing too crazy, just something small.









  • I see what you mean.

    I honestly need to work on slowing down - being more mindful. I have very bad ADHD and even with good medication, I struggle to stop and think before acting.

    That definitely doesn’t help. The medicine helps but I have not been putting in the work often enough to be less reactive and random.

    Also - I’ve made progress over the past few years in accepting myself. I still want to blame myself 100% for everything though and I still allow my desire to improve to feed the negative self-talk.

    I appreciate your response and for reminding me of things that can help.



  • I really do appreciate your response.

    I have been limiting myself unconsciously - again - and ended up paying for it. I was so desperate for a friendship that I ignored some reddish flags and attempted to navigate them once they were obviously red.

    Those negative voices that tell me I’m not good enough to have friends and that I’m unlovable won.

    I didn’t mean to upset them so much but I’m glad I did. They were treating me like garbage at times and I am better than that.

    Your points regarding the examples of friendship we have are spot on. I was running on a sort of autopilot that was programmed by poor parenting (I’m being generous here) and unrealistic media.

    I have a lot of work to do on myself but I know that I can find people that I can bring into my life to some degree that will help me overcome that loneliness and maybe even help each other be better.