The Peter principle is a concept in management developed by Laurence J. Peter which observes that people in a hierarchy tend to rise to “a level of respective incompetence”: employees are promoted based on their success in previous jobs until they reach a level at which they are no longer competent, as skills in one job do not necessarily translate to another.
I agree that what she does is manipulative and condescending even with the best intentions (paving the road to hell and all that), but I have issues with the use of “emotional intelligence” here.
An emotional intelligent person does NOT do this kind of shit on purpose.
They meet the other person where they’re at and on the same level, they communicate honestly, they don’t presume to educate or manage them.
I’d say she comes off more as emotionally stunted, she has no idea know how to relate with her partner as an equal.
I grew up in a fairly conservative household. I used to read the rags my parents considered newspapers, people in my social circles and schools were mostly middle to upper class, and I idolized my father.
It took me a long while to realize I was seeing through distorted glasses, even after I started mingling with different viewpoints.
There always was a gut feeling that something didn’t add up, cognitive dissonance maybe.
I sometimes wonder what kind of person I’d be had I not been high on the neurodivergent spectrum and pushed on the outside.
Privilege and social echo chambers make for pretty efficient blindfolds.
It usually pisses me off immediately, it feels like I’m discussing with 12 years olds, but it’s mostly when they use them as nicknames, as you said.
And constantly.
Jokes and occasional puns, that’s fine, I still find most are not funny to begin with but that’s personal taste.
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I share the same pet peeve, but I have to admit a few clever ones deserve to survive and you bring a good contender
You’re hopeless and after this I’m done arguing with a wall.
You go learn science.
Being vaccinated doesn’t make you 100% safe, that’s a fact. Even if it did, when shit is left free to roam in a herd of unvaxed morons it can mutate.
Beside all that, I’m not hiding or running, I’m staying in my country or going places with mostly reasonable people roaming about.
It’s really truly that fucking simple.
You’ve already been answered plenty and I don’t think you’ve been listening anyway, but for what is worth I wasn’t advocating against vaccines, I’m on top of mine (covid included) and I’m always very vocally in favour.
I still avoid putting myself in the way of contagion when I can, and right now that includes staying out of the USA or any country that puts antivaxers in places of authority.
Vaccines usually aren’t a 100% shield. If enough people around you are unvaccinated, you may be at risk too.
Immunity comes in numbers.
That without counting potential mutations in such a favourable environment.
I’d stay out of the US for the foreseeable future.
Jesus. I didn’t downvote you, and I was referring to people not wanting the engine, Chrome and Chromium.
Vivaldi is Chrome based
I’m happy you found your way and again, don’t use labels if you don’t want to. Start building the world you wish for, by all means.
You keep missing or ignoring the point that your experience is yours alone, other people find comfort, identity, community and understanding in their labels and that’s their right.
Labels are a tool, how they are used depends on the person but they don’t intrinsically imply either discrimination or lack of compassion. Be compassionate, we agree that’s the way, but as far as I’m concerned that includes letting people be with their labels when they want to, as long as they’re not being dicks about it.
I think we agree on the main point of wanting a more inclusive society, one that hopefully doesn’t need labels, eventually, but it doesn’t look likely it will happen soon, and as long as we live in this one each of us copes the way we can.
Happy holidays friend
Everything is used to divide, someone autistic will behave in ways that “other” him regardless of labels, and people who want to hate are going to keep hating.
You don’t need them, don’t use them, but they absolutely are helpful for many people. We are nowhere near a society inclusive enough to make labels obsolete.
Beside, dealing with people’s attitude isn’t the only issue. Neurodivergent people will compare themselves to others on their own, and will struggle with their self image and self-esteem. A diagnosis will help with understanding themselves and finding better strategies much quicker.
I think they are referring to this.
As in, it’s not that they want, they might have to.
Hard agree there
I’m fine with getting wrinkles and I still keep my skincare going. When I don’t, my skin gets very dry and fills with pimples.
There’s a middle ground here.
I seem to remember a similar blunder as well, maybe it was DeSantis?
I don’t mean to intrude or push in any way, but your story sounds familiar and I found Running on empty to be an interesting read, if you ever feel inclined.
Good luck.
Blonde and ginger women get asked plenty.
I can easily see a shaved head elicit the same dubious approach.
Any woman I’ve ever talked with has their fair share of weird, inappropriate crap thrown their way, this just par for the course.