You’re right, going for asphixation is more dangerous than many folks assume, especially since it has become quite normalized through porn. Most porn scenes and I assume most more vanilla folks at home don’t restrict blood flow, they just put their hands on the neck without much pressure for the feeling of domination.

If you still want to engage in actual breath play… There are good resources on the risks and different techniques of choking and breath play out there, don’t put actual pressure on a persons neck without informing yourself and talking about the risks. One variation is to instruct a person to hold their own breath once you touch their neck, so you still are only simulating a choke without actually putting pressure on the neck.

Choking can be an intense and exhilarating experience for some people. It can increase sexual arousal and pleasure by restricting blood flow to the brain, causing a rush of endorphins and a feeling of euphoria. Additionally, some people enjoy the feeling of domination or submission that comes with choking.

https://kinkdictionary.com/kinks/restriction/choking/

This happens sometimes with redgif… try to right click on the video (in this thread, not on redgif directly) and choose “Open Video in New Tab”. This way the sound always works for me.

Looks like you forgot to add a picture or something?

Might be related to https://github.com/LemmyNet/lemmy-ui/issues/2244?

On the first render of the web UI I get shown posts from blocked communities. (opening lemmynsfw.com in a new tab) If I refresh the page they’re gone. Anyone else has this problem?

Have you tried logging out and back in again?

Jerboa crashes on me when I try to log in.

The issue is already reported: https://github.com/dessalines/jerboa/issues/1283
Issue is already fixed but not yet released.

Can’t log in with 2FA, created an issue here: https://codeberg.org/Bazsalanszky/Eternity/issues/227

This update also disables 2FA for all accounts. 2FA also now uses SHA-1 instead of SHA-256, so it follows now RFC 6238. Should make the Lemmy 2FA method compatible to more TOTP clients.

Please mark your post as NSFW. This question might also be a better fit for !nsfw411.

But to answer your question, have a look at !spitroasted.

Also supports barcode scanning via https://github.com/Forceu/barcodebuddy, although I’m a bit confused… The official android app claims to support barcode scanning: https://github.com/patzly/grocy-android

If you’re comfortable with self-hosting you might want to have a look at Grocy: https://grocy.info/

Sadly you can’t follow a user (yet?). Some OC posters create an extra community for their own content, which you then can subscribe to.

You can bookmark the profile of a user in your browser if you’re using the web ui.

What brand are those panties? They’re hella cute. You’re cute as well, of course. ;)

I understand and appreciate that this community is important to you and that you want to see it grow and flourish. I think we ultimately want the same thing but have different views and interpretations of what the current problems are and what the best approaches are to solve them.

I’ll try to respond to your points and questions, and explain why I think the deactivation of down votes is a good step right now. I want to make clear that I don’t speak for anyone else, I’m just stating my own views and opinions:

What do we do about moderators being spammers?

We seem to have different definitions of spam. The amount of posts doesn’t make a poster a spammer imo.

Blocking moderators isn’t my favorite thing to do, even though I currently have.

If you need to block moderators then maybe the com is just not for you? You’re free to create your own community with better moderation and less spam.

Although it generally might be a good idea to use separate accounts for official admin announcements and for posting content, something to think about. Thank you for bringing up that point.

We’ve already lost one community member due to how they treated her, and how her comments about his improprieties were handled, can we talk about corrective actions? Or is this just a good ol’ boys club?

While I would have worded the message to that community member differently (and b9 and me talked about that), my perspective on the issue is that B9 didn’t have ill intentions and the member misinterpreted the message because they already disliked b9 bc of !fauxbait. I might be wrong, but that’s how I read the situation.

Feels sus that this comes pretty directly after they were called out in comments with downvotes on their bullshit, now mod deleted, reply .

I can tell you that this was talked about way before, I asked for this like 2 weeks ago because I was upset about getting down voted on my niche kink posts. OC posters that don’t fit mainstream beauty standards have been complaining about down votes for quite a while. There are people sitting in front of the screen, we humans are not machines, we have feelings. Down voting someone because you don’t find them attractive is just a shitty and hurtful thing to do.

And who cares this much about fake points anyway? just tell the people who are complaining about the “excessive downvotes” to turn off vote counts in their user settings.

(OC) Posters want to see that people interact with their content, that some people enjoy them. This is not a good solution for them. Yes, some people write comments, but only a small percentage of the people up voting a post will leave a comment.

why should a few complainers ruin the way the entire instance is operated? absolutely ridiculous.

The “complainers” are the people that are posting and keeping this instance alive. As you might have noticed not a single OC poster has complained about this change. The way I see it a few people misusing down votes where ruining the entire instance. As other folks in this thread explained, everyone is aware that his heavy handed approach is not ideal but under the circumstances it seemed like the best choice to try it out.

I already had to limit my experience to SUBSCRIBED only so that I didn’t have to see said moderators awful bullshit spam taking my actual entire main new page up all the time

Seems like a great solution. The “local, newest” feed will become basically unusable at a certain point anyways if there are enough people posting. The local feed can be useful to find new coms that you aren’t aware of but since sexual tastes are very broad and particular it’s to be expected that a lot of the posts will not be to your liking.

I get why the Lemmy devs made users default to the local feed on the web UI, but I don’t think it’s a good fit for a NSFW instance. The mobile app I’m using defaults to the subscribed feed. I recommend changing the web UI to default to the subscribed feed in the settings.

If you want to use the local feed as your default feed then you have to block the communities that you don’t want to see. This is a blacklist approach, which is a lot of work. The subscription feed is a white list approach, way less work. Of course not useful for discovery, but I don’t think “discovery mode” is a good default mode for this site.

(guess i can go back but its probably just him with another username doing the same now)

Do you have a reason or proof that they are using multiple accounts?

And it’s a core aspect of the fediverse.

I’m not sure if you’re talking about the local feed or about down votes. The local timeline on any sufficiently large fediverse server is basically useless because it’s just way too many random posts to take in. Down votes are not a core aspect of the fediverse. Activitypub, the fundamental protocol of the fediverse specifies a “Like Activity” but no “Dislike Activity”: https://www.w3.org/TR/activitypub/#like-activity-outbox It’s just something Lemmy devs took from Reddit and similar boards. Not all boards handle down votes in the same way, a site like hackernews, will not let you down vote until your account has received a certain amount upvotes. It’s fine to experiment and iterate on this formula. Given the limitations Lemmy the team came to the decision that this is the best way to go forward until changes to Lemmy are made. We need to use the options and settings that are currently available.

You wrote in another thread on this post that you don’t want even more instances of Lemmy. A lot of people would argue that the ability to create your own instance if you dislike the moderation on your previous instance is a core aspect of the fediverse. I think the best approach to not need more instances is to be the most welcoming community possible on lemmynsfw. This means to accept that people will post stuff that you don’t want to see and that that’s okay and even a good thing.

Let me explain how this happens since you dont get Lemmy??

I can assure you that they are aware of the chain of events that leads to more down votes than a community has members. As I explained above, sexual interests are diverse and if everyone would down vote anything that they personally find distasteful then we would lose all those wonderful niche communities where people can enjoy their specific tastes. I think this community is better for this diversity.

Why are you using subscriber count as an arbitrary ceiling?

The subscriber account was mentioned because it is proof that down votes are coming at least in part from the local feed. I think those down votes are a net negative for the community as it discourages anything that isn’t mainstream.

most people dont subscribe to communities they like… I only do it to avoid your homeboy’s spamming and similar users.

I would recommend that they start subscribing to their favorite coms if they are unhappy with the local feed, see my above comment about black list vs white list approach.

legit part of the federated universe that happens to specialize in porn

What makes a site a legit part of the fediverse? To me, if a server speaks activitypub and federates it is part of the fediverse, if an instance turns of federation then it’s not part of the fediverse. You seem to be talking about something else?

And guess what the internet already has plenty of ? yep! porn Collections, you nailed it.

I don’t think people posting porn content takes away from the coms that focus on OC content. If people are looking for OC content they will find it. Anyone who’s familiar with NSFW Reddit knows about gonewild. !gonewild has more than 16k subscribers. That’s ~38.7% of the user base (though some subscribers might come from other instances). I think that’s pretty good.

You’re removing features for people using them within the defined rules (none).

While it would be possible to see who down votes by looking at the database, there is no way to see the users who gave down votes via the UI. I think that a rule that is not practical to enforce is not very useful in this context.

I’m looking forward to the return of down votes if down votes can be limited to subscribed communities or to only allow users with enough points to down vote. I’m generally wary of technical solutions to social problems, but I think in a pseudonymous board like lemmynsfw it can work quite well or at least it can be a useful part of the solution.

Of course they can, but reality is that some just don’t do it. It’s really frustrating and I’m sorry that this is happening to you.

Would you be interested in help with moderating your communities? I think that’s the best we can do until the Lemmy software itself improves.

Are the people writing those comments subscribed to the community you’re posting in? Might also be a problem of people from the local feed commenting on those posts?

If you would look at all of the posts from reddit nsfw subreddits then a lot if them would seem very weird to you. It just doesn’t make sense to drink from the firehose of all the nsfw subreddits, would be way too many posts, you just look at your subscriptions or a specific subreddit. Because lemmynsfw is way smaller, overall post count is maybe measured in posts per hour instead posts per second, most people seem to primarily look at /all aka /local. I think the web UI also defaults to /local instead of /subscriptions, which doesn’t help the issue.

This leads to many people downvoting posts in coms that they aren’t part of. The long term solution would be improvements to lemmys filtering system. Also the option to only allow voting in coms that you’re subscribed to looks promising. But this needs dev time and capacity. I’m positive that downvotes will be activated again once lemmy improves for lemmynsfw’s use case.

Ah, thank you for the info.