As the title says, I wanna get bottom surgery, but the thing is, I live in a country which has little rights to death penalty for lgbt folks, and I live in a restrictive family that are bigoted and filed with hate. Every time when I get hyped about bottom surgery, I remember I live with worst family in a worst country

And that makes me feel down bad, I just get sad every time when I think about it.

And I was wondering what will be my friends (Online and irl) and my family reaction like if I ever said I wanna get bottom surgery? This scenario makes me heated up and afraid if I ever said it to them I’m now just sitting in my room, so pissed off I live in this country

I wanna get at least help or advice regarding my situation

Thanks to anyone who replied to this post

Bye comrades <3

  • Makan@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
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    2 days ago

    I also want to transition. I don’t know how to go about it, but am receiving help.

    I don’t know where else to go online though.

    • WhatWouldKarlDo@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
      8·
      2 days ago

      In my case, I called the LGBT hotline at a local LGBT clinic and asked them how I got started on it. (Well, actually I didn’t come right out and say it. I just awkwardly said I didn’t know what I was doing. but the person on the phone clued in when I got excited she mentioned informed consent). She directed me to call a specific doctor who only dealt with trans issues, and told me that people would know what I wanted just by booking the appointment with her.

      I booked the appointment, and somehow managed to get HRT without ever saying the word trans, or even really admitting to it. It was one of the scariest days of my life. But also one of the best.

      • Makan@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
        4·
        2 days ago

        WOW

        Yeah, I need this. I just don’t know myself that well, but I hope that I have the courage to do right by myself.

        • WhatWouldKarlDo@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
          3·
          1 day ago

          What made me do it was a change of perspective. I was really kind of mad that my 20 year old self didn’t do it. I thought I was too old at that point. But then I followed that logic, and my 60 year old self would likely be just as angry at me for not doing it. I was never going to stop feeling this way. I couldn’t change the past, but I could change the future. There would never be a good time to do it. I may as well get it done today.

          As it turned out, it was the perfect time for me to do it. The pandemic lockdown made the early years so much easier. But I didn’t know that was coming.

          • Makan@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
            3·
            1 day ago

            I thought I was too old at that point. But then I followed that logic, and my 60 year old self would likely be just as angry at me for not doing it.

            Didn’t think about it like that…

            Frankly, the imposter syndrome is fucking REAL when it comes to gender dysphoria and I hate it.

            • WhatWouldKarlDo@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
              3·
              1 day ago

              Yeah. It really is. I still have my doubts about whether I’m trans or not. They’re fading, but still there. But again, it was a shift in perspective that made me go through with it. Even if the hormones didn’t do anything at my age, I would still get some curves in the right places. I would still be happy with that, even if not the dramatic change I wanted. Worst case scenario sounded pretty good to me (totally cis thoughts, right?). If the best case happened, I would figure out what to do then.

              It turns out I wasn’t too old, and jumped at the chance to switch completely as soon as I could. And what do you know? The dysphoria is gone now, and I don’t miss my old life. I’m starting to really believe that I might not be cis. And I think my 60 year old self is going to be proud of me.