• BreakDecks@lemmy.ml
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    7 months ago

    While I agree that we should avoid bullying rather than just avoiding bullying specific groups, this might go too far. We should just make a whitelist of people who you can bully, like Republicans or people who watch reality television.

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      7 months ago

      No. It may feel good in the moment, but doesn’t change anything. It just reinforces their belief that the world is out to get them and makes us hypocrites, or if done regularly enough, turns is into the beast we would destroy as e also feel bad about our behavior and ignore those feelings long enough (they’re there for a reason). And sure, there will be momentary lapses and negative feelings we didn’t know what to do with them. That’s when it’s time to face our shadows, again, and do the work. It took me a half a century to get there, but I’ve begun trying. I hope you will join me. It’s an individual work, but we can support each other, if you’re game.

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      7 months ago

      If we’re going here…

      Whitelist isn’t the preferred nomenclature. Use terms like allow-list or permit-list.

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          7 months ago

          Usually a deny-list or a block-list.

          These are the inclusive terms that are getting adopted in IT, at least, and they usually work in that context. Maybe not for everything.

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              7 months ago

              At my company, white hat hackers are to be called “offensive security researchers”. Black hat hackers are to be called “attackers”.

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              7 months ago

              I think grey still is acceptable, at least until the martians start demanding equal rights.

              I think terms like “legal grey area” don’t have the same connotations as black/white do, because “grey” isn’t really used as an adjective for a person.

              I still refer to our oldschool Linux admins as greybeards. I think that’s okay because there’s like 5 oldschool female Linux admins in the world and they are chill as hell.

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              7 months ago

              Don’t forget about the whole master/slave thing or how often programmers kill children.