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    Two women were talking about this boxer at a pizzeria, on the table next to mine. One was explaining to the second how she was a transgender woman and under HRT, so this was the cause of the debate. I had to step in and tell them she was completely cis and that he father didn’t want her to pick up box because it was not a girly enough sport

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        The people that spread this shit probably just quietly moved on instead of posting a correction and apology. The people that read their shit then never saw the truth.

      • TechnoUnionTypeBeat [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.net
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        A lie can make it halfway across the world before the truth has had time to lace up its shoes, to paraphrase an old adage

        There could be a complete genetic breakdown of Khelif posted tomorrow to every news outlet that proves, conclusively, she is a cis woman, and it wouldn’t matter. The lie that started everything is more interesting and has more staying power

        People who aren’t invested in it but who hear it casually in “reputable news sources” aren’t going to inform themselves on any corrections, the damage is already done

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    The key to talking about things you don’t know about is to be loud, aggressive, and ridiculously confident in your beliefs. Project competency though you have none.

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    What about learning these phrases instead:

    • I believe
    • I seem to recall
    • As I understand it
    • It seems to me that
    • In my experience

    In other words, make it clear to the reader what your level of skill or knowledge is.

    Whilst chewing on that, consider adding a source if you have one (or six).

    Source: I’ve been here a while and it’s stood me in good stead during online (and offline) conversation over the decades.

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        If you’re actually informed, couching your opinion like this dulls its impact for no good reason. It’s good to speak/write confidently when you have cause to be confident.

        Hedging is great for situations where you aren’t confident, but should otherwise be used sparingly.

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      I fully support this, and I do this too. It saves me from looking like a dickhead. Honestly I won’t drop one of the “I believe” modifiers until after 10+ hours (usually 30+ hours) of not social media reading on a topic.

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    But then how am I supposed to get angry and ridicule random people on the internet?

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    Well, actually the opinion on the topic you are not informed about displays your values and having it might be beneficial to you.

    The problem is not in the people, the problem is in the propaganda

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          It’s good to shut down ignorant discussion, yes.

          Obviously there’s a difference between “doing your own research” via madeupshit.wiki and actually educating oneself.

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      An example would be a parent who doesn’t want any gender-related issue to be discussed in the school.

      Are they inherently flawed and inherently hateful individuals? Probably not

      Do they think that the schools indoctrinate children and they do care about them? Probably that’s the case.

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        the opinion on the topic you are not informed about displays your values and having it might be beneficial to you.

        And it might be detrimental to you just as easily. There’s no way to know which without being informed, but an ignorant opinion based on “values” (aka vibes and what you want to be true rather than what is true) is more likely to hurt you or others in the long run. Just as being a racist bigot who has a wrong opinion about people of color might find that holding their racist opinion is immediately beneficial to themselves if they’re in a similarly bigoted community, being a bigot is ultimately harmful for reasons I would hope wouldn’t need to be explained.

        An example would be a parent who doesn’t want any gender-related issue to be discussed in the school.

        Yet their uninformed opinion is harmful. Gender issues are inevitably part of our world and learning about them will not only prepare children to have an understanding of them that their ignorant parent lacks and help make the world safer and more livable for everyone as a result, but if that child themselves turns out to be gender stereotype non-conforming, then learning about those issues will help them better understand themselves and potentially save them from much of the misery inflicted on them by an ignorant populous.

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        An example would be a parent who doesn’t want any gender-related issue to be discussed in the school.

        Are they inherently flawed and inherently hateful individuals?

        Yes, for the reason Dirt_Possum stayed below. They have a responsibility to properly educate themselves on issues that effect their children or decisions they may make that impact other people’s children.

        Not wanting to explore issues like gender or race is part of why certain forms of bigotry have proven so persistent.

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          So you don’t know that she has undescended testes, then. You just made it the fuck up. Even the XY thing is pretty contentious as this point. You should shut the fuck up when making judgements about other people’s sex organs, especially when it’s just conjecture.

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              There’s no source that she has testes, that’s all fully made up and you should be ashamed of yourself for repeating that.

              Again, the XY thing is pretty sus and even normal lib sources don’t believe it.

              I hope you spend the rest of your life having people talk shit about your genitals. Really.

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                  I’m just gonna quote Wikipedia as I’m lazy. Tldr: it’s complicated.

                  Following Khelif’s victory over Italy’s Angela Carini during the 2024 Olympic Games, rumours surfaced on social media about her gender. These were fuelled by Khelif’s disqualification from the 2023 Women’s World Boxing Championships organised by the Russian-led International Boxing Association (IBA) after allegedly failing unspecified gender eligibility tests.[4][5] This disqualification happened three days after Khelif defeated a previously unbeaten Russian prospect, thus restoring the Russian boxer’s undefeated record.[6] The IBA’s Olympic status was later revoked due to governance issues as well as judging and refereeing corruption. The International Olympic Committee (IOC) and its Paris Boxing Unit stated Khelif was eligible to compete in the Olympics, and criticized the IBA’s previous disqualification as “sudden and arbitrary” and taken “without any due process”.[7] No medical evidence that Khelif has XY chromosomes or elevated levels of testosterone has been published.[8] Khelif was born female and identifies as female.[9]