Honestly, it’s quite a struggle to come to terms with it yourself. I can’t even imagine a professional telling me that I’m not, unless they are a terf and don’t want to be taken serious.

i went to my family physician completely unprepared, stuttered that I dissociate with my agab and he just looked at me confused and printed the required papers to forward me to a therapist. It’s not their job to determine if you are trans, it’s their job to forward you somewhere more specialized to make the call (decision).

You can do it, girl! 💪

Never thought of you in an other dog mode 💖

tbh, militarisation, war mongering and propaganda are an issue in many western bloc countries, too (incl. Germany). You might also want to consider avoiding any country that’s actively preparing for a war against Russia. I hope you can find some place quiet.

Do you mean physically leaving the country, or finding a place to stay / get a visa? Regarding the first: I heard you can get anywhere when first flying to India.

In most regards, anything “typical for East Germany” doesn’t apply too much to Berlin. Also any larger German city tends to be left-leaning, even in East Germany. I don’t think you will easily end up in a far right (AfD) hotspot, unless you intend on going to rural areas.

Larger cities are however dirtier and more expensive. But it you want to go smaller, look for something with at last a few job opportunities and preferably an existing, “organized” LGBTQ+ community.

In East Germany you’ll at least find russian speaking people more easily (though likely >50yo and Ukrainians), if that’s a concern.

Studying in English is possible. I think German language classes are offered for free? Germany has welfare, but the government loves to (illegally) limit support below what’s legally considered a minimum income for a life in dignity. So expect having to struggle to make ends meet.

I don’t know about how easy it is for immigrants to get medical support, sadly. Hopefully someone else can answer that.

It helps me to consider that many people have a lot of stuff going on in their lives, things that worry them, as well as things that are taxing on them (work, physical and mental health issues, care work, finances, etc). We all have to manage the resources we have, including attention. Going vegan requires quite some thought, some getting use to, some effort to break out of the habit. It requires mental effort to reconsider common prejudice and misconceptions, and it often leads to facing one’s own cognitive dissonance (meaning: if we ate animals or whole life and we now consider that to be wrong, we have to face having done wrong our whole previous life; addressing this dissonance can be mentally painful).

Personally I’d rather nudge people, than to appear as if forcing them. I like some low barrier offers, like bringing muffins or inviting them for dinner. It depends on how thoughtful and open minded the person is, many will just push back when feeling pressured. I remember that I didn’t go vegan overnight either.

Are you organized and do outreach work? Are you sad about “ignorant” people in general or family/friends in particular?

@dessalines@lemmy.ml being as sharp as always, thank you for sharing this! I somehow missed that essay in the past, and recently even had a discussion where I argued in favor of signal. His overview makes some great points that shouldn’t be dismissed offhandedly. The important point is to not make the mistake of shunning signal in favor of an even less secure alternative. Also the user’s threat model should be taken into account. Those who aren’t anticapitalists (yet) might need to worry less about the concerns.

How can you be sure that they do?

Hmm, this is a topic that has been debated for years, I guess instead of writing my own summaries, it’s great to link you to some resources, outlining why modern AI (“LLM”/“GPT”) is controversial:

• https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Large_language_model#Safety
• https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Large_language_model#Societal_concerns
• https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ChatGPT#Limitations
• https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/AI_slop

Note that some issues apply only given certain output (e.g. hallucinations), some depend on the usage (the decision to generate and publicize AI slop is made by human operators), whereas some issues are always present (e.g. huge environmental impact).

Regarding the there being a difference between good and bad AI or not: Some people argue that it’s always bad, some are bit more nuanced, some are competely blind/ignorant to the problem. Only those in the middle camp would necessarily see a difference.

Für mich ist da entscheidend, ob wenn ich auf Arbeit ein Kollege vorbei kommt und den Bildschirm sieht, der konkrete Inhalt fraglich oder unangebracht wäre. Egal wie gekühlt die eigene Arbeitsstelle ist oder ob man eine hat. Mein Urteil in diesem Fall: Grauzone mit Tendenz zu Nein. Aber es tut überhaupt nicht weh, es in Zweifel lieber zu setzten.

Wenn sich die Beiträge mehr in Richtung erregte/gehörnte Beiträge entwickeln (wie die berühmten von @violet08_@lemmy.world), dann: ja, bitte mit NSFA-Etikett. Nicht wegen Taliban, sondern wegen Arbeit und übersensiblen Mitmenschen.

Danke übrigens generell für’s Beiträge erstellen, Jürgen! 🥰

“This game doesn’t look like other games you’ve played in the past” pfft yeah sure, who are you trying to fool? 😘

Wow, really? From the few transfems that I know IRL, I didn’t think such a change is possible. Thank you for sharing 💜

I’ve read about some being happy to have such a large range of voices after voice training, mainly for theatrical purposes. But I can see how with lack of training, one can get unused to their old voice…

For comparison, when did you start voice training / adjusting your voice? It’s sometimes hard to judge your own voice, but did you consider it androgynous before?

Don’t be racist /s

Aaargh, I actually made some for breakfast and forgot to secure proof for you! No wait, I actually do have some left over, because I needed to head out before I finished all of them…

What do you use for voice analysis

Thank you for sharing your advices!

As a clothing swap organizer myself, I can only suggest that you consider offering help to make it happen next month 😘

Great advice tbh. “dressing dark to disappear” is on point.

Congratulations on that milestone!

Thank you for sharing! I’m yet to try girlmoding in public and was curious how that might feel. Though I can’t describe why, your post somehow feels encouraging to me. The most important thing is that you’re happy and can be yourself. You’ve got this!

Do you want to talk about why those other spaces make you feel like you can’t be yourself?

Welcome to the club! I’m glad you found out and hope that as a community we can offer support and get updates from your end ❤️

How are your health care options?