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  • Barbarian@lemmy.mltoMemes@lemmy.mlwho is this?
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    1 year ago

    > but I often wish for more connection with other people

    The fact that that’s not ok in your relationship sounds pretty bizarre to me. I am in a monogamous relationship, and I have both male and female friends. My gf also has both male and female friends. When she wants to go have some personal time with her friends, I’m supportive of that.

    I’m likely reading too much into this, so I’ll apologize in advance, but not being ok with your significant other spending quality time with people they care about seems jealous and insecure to me.

    EDIT: My reading comprehension is apparently trash tier.






  • Barbarian@lemmy.mltoLemmy@lemmy.mlIntended way to federate
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    1 year ago

    You should be able to federate with all available communities by default.

    The trick is that your instance will not pull in all communities by default. Once 1 person subscribes to a community (a bit tricky for the first time, see here), all users on your instance will start seeing that community in their “All” feeds.







  • Hi all, wandering around random small Lemmy servers seeing if I can be of use. To pull communities into your instance, you need to first have someone subscribe. Useful picture in this comment, but basically you go to “Communities” at the top, and start a search with the full URL of the community you want (https://lemmy.ml/c/lemmy, for example) and change “Communities” to “All” in the search options.

    Once you’ve clicked through to the community and subscribed, it’ll be pulled in forever. If you want to dig around for communities to subscribe to, go to the community finder.

    Good luck, and see you around Lemmy :)




    1. Technically yes, but it’s not even vaguely in the same ballpark. If I’ve understood the devs talking about the optimization issues (I could be wrong! Just my limited understanding) the big performance hit is in the local feed. That means being on another instance takes a gigantic amount of the load off, even if you’re still accessing the same community.

    2. If lemmy.ml is down, so are all the communities hosted there. All communities not on lemmy.ml would still be up.





  • Mostly correct. The only slight correction is that they can delete posts and block users from their own communities. So hypothetically, if User@serverone.lm posts starts being super rude on a community in servertwo.lm, then the admins of servertwo.lm can delete posts in their instance and/or block the user from participating there. That does not stop User@serverone.lm from participating in their own instance or any other.

    The defederation thing is very much a last resort. If EVERYONE in serverone.lm is causing problems, and the admins of serverone.lm refuse to do anything, then the admins of servertwo.lm might decide it’s not worth the hassle to ban individuals and ban the whole instance.