If you’re looking for chatbots -
SillyTavern with turbo 3.5 is pretty good but you have to pay for the OAI API.
My experience with pygmalion wasn’t great but some really like it.
Character AI is unquestionably the best model and the easiest to use however it has a strict NSFW policy.
I’ve never tried llama but people did rave about it when it first released. I don’t know how easy it is to get up and running though.
I think you’re being a little unfair. A lot of the examples you state are not universal among dogs. And a lot of the issues could be solved with owners being more responsible. No owner should let a dog come up to you like that, that is just unacceptable. I would never allow my dog to do that unless it was clear the person wanted it. Likewise dogs should NOT be stealing food from people, that is bad behaviour and it’s on the owners who should know better and train the dog properly.
Sure, some dogs have annoying or difficult traits, but to paint all dogs in such a negative light is just not accurate. You’re perfectly entitled to be nervous around dogs, but if you reinforce that nervousness with negative connotations you will never be able to overcome it.