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  • berrodeguarana@lemmy.eco.brtomemes@lemmy.worldWhat a concept!
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    9 months ago

    I understand finding these things funny when you are a cool, level-headed person or not in a moment of fight or flee situation, but many of us fall prey to dumb reasoning in emotional situations.

    Going slightly off-topic, but I’d wager many people have spent a lot of unnecessary money or gone to jail in the heat of the moment. And many of Sun Tzu’s or Lao Tzi’s (Tao) advice is like: “stop, breathe, and think it through mofo, stop being an impulsive idiot and paying a high price for it”





  • berrodeguarana@lemmy.eco.brtomemes@lemmy.worldTaking for granted
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    9 months ago

    Stupid question, wasn’t that a risky move? I mean, the way I was raised to think by my parents I can hear their voices in the back of my head if I went through a situation like this, similar to this:

    “But aren’t you worried they might hire you then fire you just out of spite for switching companies? And then what are you gonna do?”




  • I feel you.

    On your 3rd paragraph, I also have no idea why this happens, but we are not the only ones. Maybe people get the idea we became too self-centered?

    I cannot comment on you because I don’t know you, but in my case, if I were to be self-critic, I always focus too much on my career, wife, hobbies, household chores, family… friends were always the last priority on my schedule. People pick up on that quickly, idk.

    I do have some friends though who are low maintenance and with these I find its much easier to keep friends with. We can go 6 months without seeing each other and its still fun to get together.


  • I am that friend that vanished that you are describing.

    In my case, I tried talking to the friend that bothered me ( an unmedicated ADHD alcoholic mess of a friend) he told me to fuck off.

    I even stopped hanging out with my old group of friends that involved this guy that I described because it became this: male anger space to vent off, suicide jokes, complain about work, glorify alcohol, try out different types of drugs. No, thank you, I don’t want to do a live action of Rick n Morty.

    There is no talking with a group where everyone decided to stay together on a shitty decision. I tried once and they got really angry and made me the wrong one for going to the gym, waking up early, quitting alcohol, etc.

    I still keep in touch from afar and now, almost 10 years later, some of them are saying " yeah, the doctor told me to drop the alcohol", " yeah now I found the right meds for me and I aint as angry"

    Everybody goes at their own pace, but expecting other friends to stay with you during this journey is ludicrous.

    I went my way and although it hurt, sometimes its the best thing you can do for your mental health and integrity




  • Agora no Lemmy uso o conect e tá ok, mas não é a mesma coisa, fora que 90% da galera não fez a migração

    Eu entendo que tenha menos posts e isso possa desanimar, mas para mim eu percebo que são coisas de maior qualidade, a conversa flui mais devagar e às vezes posts se alongam mais sobre um tema e outro. Eu acho que, no geral, o resultado é positivo. Tem vezes que eu entro aqui para postar e já vejo um usuário falando exatamente o que eu penso, então eu só upvoto, hahaha.

    O que eu posso sugerir para expandir tua experiência no Lemmy e dar essa sensação do r/brasil é usar o All e ficar conectada em todas as instâncias do Lemmy possíveis.

    Não é obrigatório saber inglês bem, mas ajuda muito já que a troca e investida ao Lemmy é primordialmente algo internacional.








  • As a Brazilian, you are forgetting that the reason why “3rd world countries” immigrate to “1st world countries” is because the latter exploited the former as colonies to the max: Brazil, India, Morocco, Senegal, Mexico, list goes on.

    1st world countries only could deliver this level of wellbeing to their citizens because some countries were being exploited at the bottom.

    When 3rd world citizens watch videos of people of their own country working for Ifood/Uber on the US and making 5x as much due to how shitty their national economy is, the decision to immigrate is obvious. It’s really ironic if you think about it that 1st world countries have to pay out of their own pockets to rescue, give food, shelter and pay basic health care for descendants of people their own ancestors exploited