I’m shamelessly stealing that person idea, because I think it’s an interesting question.

Personally I’m into porn involving some forms of abuse, often it’s rape but it could also be just spanking or gaslight. Of course I’m not into that in real life. I know CNC is a thing, same with consensual SM and I could be into trying those one day, but I don’t see myself doing that with my husband anytime soon, and it’s different when it’s planned in advance, which is not always the case in the story presented in porn.

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    Any situation with more than 2 people. I love the idea of groups or swinging, but IRL I am a very awkward human - couldn’t do it even if presented with the opportunity. And I have no interest in anyone besides my partner.

    I’ll leave that one to fantasy-land.

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    In porn i always look for 20-something looking girls, but IRL I always found myself physically attracted girls (women) of my age bracket… So definitely older.

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      Porn makes the look more interesting than personality, and in real life I think it’s the opposite. I definitely sometimes enjoy porn with 20 something guys too, but I don’t see myself going out with them, even if I was single.

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        Yeah but like it’s not only that. I find myself more attracted to women my age irl just by their looks too.

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        Agreed, in porn its only the looks, IRL its so much more than that.

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      I follow alot of hot Instagram models. They are amazing to look at. But if you ever attend a rare IG Live they do, they are some of the most vacuous, money minded people I’ve ever encountered.

      One girl literally had the “cash me outside” girls schtick. I couldn’t help myself and sent a message saying it’s a good thing she’s pretty, then left.

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    99% of it . … I want to have a great time and want my partner to have a great time. I also don’t want to bang relatives or plumbers or realtors or any myriad of professionals. So yeah porn stays in the land of fantasy and I can be inspired but mostly leave it there

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      I mean hey, I thought that might be the case for me, but uh… one thing led to another and it turns out sucking a cock in real life is incredibly hot. YMMV though 😅

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          I’m glad it worked out for you!!! My partner is also encouraging. Good reminder to be incredibly thankful we have them in our lives ❤️

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    Big age gap.

    Though as I get older, it’s becoming less of a fantasy and more of a reality. Thought about this a few months back after hooking with a woman who was 20 years my junior. I’ve become that guy and I’m pulling back on it

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    Man, I’ve become rather unfond of porn at all. I’ve gotten to the point that it’s written erotica and fantasy for me. Porn has gotten so ugly so often that it’s all just offputting for me.

    That being said, back when I did use porn, it was anal. It’s one of those things that is very rarely on my list of things to do (for my own pleasure, I’ll do it if a partner wants it), but it uses to be arousing because of the implied openness and trust (which, I know, isn’t the case in porn, but that’s the part that makes me willing to do it irl). It’s the idea of “oh, I’ll share everything with you” that’s interesting about it in porn.

    Irl, I still get turned on by that idea, but anal itself is not anywhere near as enjoyable as vaginal sex. To the contrary, sometimes it’s distinctly unenjoyable for various reasons.

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      I’ve tried couple on couple. I don’t mind seeing my wife with another guy. But I wouldn’t wanna feel left out.

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      Instance checks out!

      I wish there was more good furry animation stuff. When my partner and I do things to each other, we put on hentai. But we’re really particular about what hentai we like… it’s insanely tough to find hentai with normal type boobs and not GARGANTUAN BAZONGAS.

      I’d love some cute yiff full vids we could watch, but there’s not a ton of that around.

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        judging by your profile you probably know about e621, if not, go there.

        Outside of that, i’ve been following comics and rolling archives for a few years now so i’ve done my stint. The tagging system is a huge boon, you just need to know how to correctly utilize it, it’s worth the time investment for image boards honestly.

        Once you’ve figured out tagging really the best advice i can give is to find artists that you like, and follow them. There are usually a few artists that you will really enjoy. Images are by far and wide more accessible, that’s just how it goes. Sorting by favorites and upvotes is also generally beneficial.

        you should 100% roll your own archive, it takes a long time to build up, but it’s very much worth the effort.

        anyway, you know where to find me :) (we’re instance buddies)

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          Thank you! Alas… I am indeed aware of all that. My lament is that there are almost zero 10-30 minute furry/anthro animations that really fit our tastes. There’s some nice short animations, but reeeeeally limited on stuff we can put on in the background while touching each other and stuff.

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            i figured as much lol. Generally in my experience there seem to be plenty of 0-5 minute animations, some types will generally loop as well. i think eipril generally has some longer animations? I’d have to check to be sure, but you probably know about them already lol.

            anyway, good luck to you out there in the ether, i wish you the best on your travels.

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              Much love! We’ve given up but at least we went to our first furry con.

              Which

              Was

              A time.

              A very good time.

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                Much love! We’ve given up but at least we went to our first furry con.

                every loss comes with a win i suppose. Or every win comes with a loss, whatever way you please lol.

                glad to hear you enjoyed it though. Not much of a con guy myself, i prefer being far away from people, that’s why im here :)

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                  We made one single friend lawl

                  We knew nobody else

                  Everyone was sooooo friendly though.

                  I will go again despite being insanely introverted.

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    Lesbian amateur couple

    It’s hard to find straight porn where woman pleasure is really the goal. When I’m in this mood, it’s easier for me to project myself in lesbian porn

    Irl, why would I care about girls who don’t care about guys ?

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    Hmm, in written erotica I can enjoy more masochistic stuff than I can enjoy in real life (I do enjoy some but too much will pull me out of the moment) but in videos pretty much enjoy what I do like, or have liked.

    Like Schimitar also said - I do also enjoy younger people in video, they are attractive on screen but not IRL, not even in looks do I find them sexually attractive, only good looking guys close to my age do that for me (though that ‘close to’ bubble is certainly wider than it was, it’s still not very big).

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    I think it would be like those exagerated athletic movements in porn (mostly in harcore videos). They look good in porn, but in reality they are very tiring or borderline impossible for a common person.