• someone [comrade/them, they/them]@hexbear.net
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      11 months ago

      It’s funny, I’ve gotten accusations of bigotry in my grindr profile for saying “No-one DL”. I intended it solely as a way to avoid men who cheat on their spouses, I don’t want any part of that. But I’ve been accused of being bigoted towards people in cultures where being openly queer is uncommon or even dangerous.

      • mrfugu [he/him, any]@hexbear.net
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        11 months ago

        yeah I’ve seen that argument but it’s dumb because it boils down to “not sleeping with me means you hate me”

        No dude I just don’t want to be involved in your secret gay bullshit. Not only am I almost certainly being complicit in cheating (most of these guys are married with children too) but you’re guaranteed emotional unavailability with higher chances of domestic violence.

        I will always fight to improve cultural outlook and I do empathize and feel bad for those guys who feel like they need to live a double life; that sounds exhausting. It doesn’t mean I need to entertain their “forbidden” lust.