• ClockworkOtter@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    Ah, so lesbianism includes gay women and bi women - at least for some people (like the couple in the OP).

    I’ve got a couple of bi friends in same sex relationships, but hadn’t ever asked if they identify as lesbians. TMYK

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        4 months ago

        It actually doesn’t. They identify as bisexual. While their bio has them claim the term “sword lesbian wives”, this is likely because that name got applied to them outside of their control, which is why they clarify they’re “actually bisexual” immediately after. They never identify as lesbian outside of this phrase, but frequently identify as bisexual.

        Honestly, applying the term “lesbian” to a couple that identify as bi feels like bi erasure, so you can see why people want to correct that asap.

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          4 months ago

          Maybe some people are happy to identify as bi lesbians and others aren’t? If they didn’t like being called lesbians then they probably wouldn’t continue to advertise themselves as such.

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            4 months ago

            Some people are happy to, sure. Why not? But we have no reason to believe they are. And they don’t actually claim to be lesbian, they just claim that the term “lesbian sword wives” (a name someone else came up with) refers to them. They more explicitly advertise themselves as bisexual.

            It’s like how Iron Man’s suit isn’t made of Iron. He also didn’t come up with the name, but he knows it refers to him.