Fewer young people are having sex, but the teens and young adults who are sexually active aren’t using condoms as regularly, if at all. And people ages 15 to 24 made up half of new chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis cases in 2022.

The downward trend in condom usage is due to a few things: medical advancements like long-term birth control options and drugs that prevent sexually transmitted infections; a fading fear of contracting HIV; and widely varying degrees of sex education in high schools.

Is this the end of condoms? Not exactly. But it does have some public health experts thinking about how to help younger generations have safe sex, be aware of their options — condoms included — and get tested for STIs regularly.

  • WeirdGoesPro@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    Unpopular opinion: the complete lack of anyone addressing reduced sensation that comes with condom use when talking to teens is also a contributing factor. I have literally never been able to have an orgasm with a condom on. The first time I had sex, the girl kept asking me if I was gay because I kept losing my erection to the weird glove like sensation on my dick.

    I ended up tackling this problem by being careful and being in a string of committed relationships, but I thought there was something wrong with me until stories on the internet made it clear that I wasn’t the only one.

    So if I was a modern teen, and knew things could mostly be solved with antibiotics, and had death grip from an adolescence on pornography, AND discovered I couldn’t keep it up when wrapped…then I probably wouldn’t use them either.

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      Maybe another myth can be cleared out too, the one of “one size fits all”. Curiously it is totally okay to have smaller condoms, but mot bigger…

      Too small condoms give exactly the effect you’re describing, IMO.

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        Absolutely, all store brand condoms are too small for me. My girlfriend ordered me “myone” brand custom condoms and sex was suddenly enjoyable again. Take some measurements fellas and get condoms that fit.

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          The 64 and 69 (mm) from Condomerie in Amsterdam gets my recommendation (if durex xxl and that similar american magnum xxl? are too small) they ship worldwide.

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        This was my exact problem and after like a decade i read something and had the ‘oh shit, they mean width not length in size’, being an ‘modest average’ length i never considered buying the larger sizes.
        I hope someone reads this comments and also actually checks to see if the same oversight is self-sabotaging their enjoyment.

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      For me it was the opposite, I needed the dulling to go a reasonable amount of time, but that wasn’t addressed either. There are ultra thin condoms, and lubing up before bagging up can help.

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      I got those crappy condoms they gave out for free. It also dulled the sensation to the point of losing my erection.

      Years later I found out that store bought condoms actually can feel good. If I had known that, maybe I would have used them.

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      Were you trying the good kind or the cheap ones they give out for free at health centers? I started with the free ones and they were terrible. I tried the Trojan sample packs and found that I didn’t even notice the condom any more. One time I actually had to stop and make sure it didn’t break because it literally felt like it wasn’t even there!

      I still have trouble maintaining when I stop to even put the condom on, but that’s a separate issue.

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      I had the same problem when I was younger. I then ordered a pack of most brands out there to find what worked for me. I landed on Crown. Even then, it’s still not as good. I have since had a vasectomy and only use condoms to keep my toys safe.

      But yeah, none of this is taught to teens. Education in america is a fucking joke.

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      I just stopped making PI* the main course of my sexual banquette. There’s much better ways to spend time with a sexy person.

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      it’s lack of sensation for me since i’m uncircumcised and the 2 layers when i wear a condom guarantees no sensation.

      i suspect that you don’t hear much about this subject because it’s the Achilles heals of condoms where nothing will help it and people don’t engage unless they think they have something that can help.

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      Sure but do realize you are an outlier. In general teens are More likely to orgasm prematurely and a thin modern condom is a relatively minor sensory barrier and can improve the duration of sexual encounters

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        A lot of teens (and adults)also masturbate to the point that they are desensitized to an insane degree. So they don’t get the full “experience”.

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      Similar experience, if less severe. I was able to use rubbers at least some of the time, but they went the hell away as soon as the relationship became serious.

      One thing that helped was making sure the damn thing was the right size. For all you youngins reading.