I just got ghosted by the girl I was talking to, I want to find another girl to talk to. This girl and I met at the gym, but I don’t want to be the guy that goes to the gym just to meet girls. I mean sure there’s the bar and Tinder, but I want a real relationship. I mean, I guess it’ll come to me.

  • Thorry84@feddit.nl
    1318·
    2 months ago

    I’ve found the most important part of finding a mate on Lemmy is to run Arch Linux. If you do not run Arch Linux, are you even trying?

    I use Arch BTW

    • Lemmy@lemm.eeOP
      11·
      2 months ago

      Speaking of Linux, where can I find a woman who’s into that? Defcon?

      • Match!!@pawb.socialEnglish
        12·
        2 months ago

        You might consider going to conventions, meetups, or other hobby events (including for other interests you might have)

      • Gbagginsthe3rd@aussie.zone
        3·
        2 months ago

        Bro, go to as many concerts and gigs as you can. Take a single mate, its crazy watching how many random interactions take place.

        Dont be scared to move around and chat to people. No one cares if you are trying to find a new viewing spot and its a great convo starter. I wish I went to more when I was younger.

        But number 1 rule, earplugs

        • Cataphract@lemmy.ml
          1·
          2 months ago

          … So you’re at a concert, wandering around the crowd (with earplugs) just conspicuously sliding up to different spots and striking up conversations with attractive people while they’re enjoying the performance? I would emphasize you want something more like a festival where there are multiple events and people have down time in-between to socialize. A normal concert would be like wearing sunglasses to a theater and moving around to get “the best viewing spot” while talking to everyone which is creepy as hell and not a good setting to strike up an actual conversation.

          • Gbagginsthe3rd@aussie.zone
            2·
            2 months ago

            Nah, I didnt explain myself well. You arent going just to chat to attractive people. I just see plenty of organic interactions whenever I go to a concert. You def have to enjoy the music and have a good time. Any social situation can be creepy or non creepy, the individual needs social awareness to understand the difference. I dont talk to people while the music is playing but inbetween songs or sets you can simply comment that was awesome. I agree with you about festivals, downtime is good to chat and chill

            • Cataphract@lemmy.ml
              2·
              2 months ago

              I was just worried someone might take it to heart without realizing the nuance lol. You or I may do well, but someone asking such a broad question like finding a partner probably doesn’t have that much social awareness (it’s been answered so many times and really all boils down to the individuals or specific situations like the scenarios we presented). I was just imagining a guy walking around in cargo shorts with socks and sandals awkwardly screaming “hi” at everyone with a pair of orange earplugs sticking out.

    • bastonia@lemmy.ml
      1·
      2 months ago

      Opensuse it the way. if I had time to waste and no responsabilities Id certainly use Arch though.