I was spanken on butt by a girl today, immediately I returned the spank to her butt as an instinct, and she says “no you can’t.” What does that mean?
That means that you are probably around 14 years old.
Rule of thumb: don’t smack bottoms without consent. Goes either way
I’m gonna make a guess you’re in school?
In that context, probably she wanted to get a reaction out of you. It could be that she is a bully, but if she is someone you get along with, or a friend, she may think you’re interesting and want to see your reaction.
It sounds silly, but sometimes people pinch or poke people they like, just you see them react.
She probably wasn’t expecting you to spank her back, but she was the first to spank, so your retaliation was understandable.
If it continues and she keeps spanking you, and you don’t want her too, you should ask her to stop, and if she keeps it up, report her.
It means she doesn’t want it but it is odd she spanked you randomly assuming she didn’t even ask if you want it
“How can she slap?!”
Then why she spank as first?
@banana_meccanica@feddit.it Not sure what answer you expect me to say as I don’t know her and just some random stranger on the internet at best
Whatever the reason, it’s wasn’t alright but that doesn’t mean you do it back
I ask in a genuine way, what this mean? It’s just a bully approce? Do I need to considered myself bullied or it is a sexual thing and she is attracted and want my sexual attention? I don’t wanna be bullied as I don’t want ignore an interest.
Humans can do similar actions for dissimilar reasons.
There are a myriad of context clues used in devining others’ motivations. I’m sorry to say, here there is not, and is not likely to be, enough information to come to a reasonable conclusion in this instance.
Either motivation you ask about could apply, or none of them.
If you really want to get to the truth, I suggest having an open and frank conversation with the girl. Be willing to listen to what she has to say without contention. Take her words, think on them, and make your own conclusions as to their veracity.
As others have pointed out, consent should precede spanking. Your (re)actions are yours. Look into yourself to figure out why you are willing to act without consent, and if that is something you would like to change about yourself.
Maybe go ask her? Like, “hey, what was that all about?” And see what she says.
You may never know…
What if she doesn’t say anything, she laughs, and she tries to slap again? Because she’s this kind of person. I shut up and I’m not doing anything? I’ve never been a victim, for me the reaction is equal to that receipt, the problem is then everyone tell me that I’m wrong, that I can’t react with in the same way. Jusy why? If you first take the liberty of touching me, I’ll touch you after as well at same way.
She sexually assaulted you. Spanking back probably wasn’t the right response, but reporting her and calling her out for it would be.
We don’t know OP’s age. He could be a literal child and kids test boundaries to shape their behaviors. As long as there’s not a repeat spank, I don’t think anyone should be reported. If OP asks her not to touch him without his consent again, he will have successfully handled the situation on his own.
But what if i ask her to touch me more and she say “what a fuck”? This is the point, i don’t feel assaulted only confused by an act that can be or bully or not.
I think you’re assuming a scenario here that is very likely not to be the case
He literally said he was spanked on the butt without his consent. No assumptions were made here period.
This is the reason why male sexual assault isn’t taken seriously, and why male victims have even less recourse then female victims. Anytime a man is assaulted, it’s always brushed off as ‘it’s not a big deal’ or ‘it doesn’t count cause she’s a girl’ or ‘man up and just take it’, often by other men. It’s as if consent stops mattering if you have a penis or are male identifying.
Imagine if the genders were reversed and how outraged you would be. As a woman who has had this exact thing done to me before, I know. It’s not a matter of how much it hurts to be spanked, it’s a matter of losing your agency over your own body and feeling like a piece of meat.
Additionally, if it wasn’t on his ass it’d still be battery. Sexual assault is pretty clearly defined to include slapping someone’s ass and, just generally, don’t touch other people.
Yes exactly I am really confused, I always try to see the positive in the next one. That gesture I saw as a friendly spanking among soldiers, but then that “No You Can’t” left me confused, like she actually wanted to humiliate me.
Touching someone without consent is illegal - that girl was in the wrong but you’d also be in the wrong to slap her. If her contact made you feel uncomfortable it’d be perfectly reasonable to seek arbitration (if you’re in school) or even press charges for sexual assault.
Unless you have consent don’t touch other people and, especially, don’t touch an erogenous zone.
She likes you.
How much are you sure about it? Because I don’t really feeling
I’m not sure but it looked like she was teasing you. If you don’t feel like interacting with her, just ignore and let it go. As simple as that.
That poster was full of shit and even if she did like you you’re not obligated to like her back.
I just want a fair measure. I think it’s too much to call it a sex assault. It’s more of a form of bullying, I think, it confuses me because I’ve never met a bully woman, and at this point I wonder if anything I do, even report, makes me stupid and guilty although I never started.
I don’t know your full situation, but if you’re the victim of sexual assault you are in no way stupid, guilty, or responsible.
