I was spanken on butt by a girl today, immediately I returned the spank to her butt as an instinct, and she says “no you can’t.” What does that mean?

  • Rachelhazideas@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    She sexually assaulted you. Spanking back probably wasn’t the right response, but reporting her and calling her out for it would be.

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      1 year ago

      We don’t know OP’s age. He could be a literal child and kids test boundaries to shape their behaviors. As long as there’s not a repeat spank, I don’t think anyone should be reported. If OP asks her not to touch him without his consent again, he will have successfully handled the situation on his own.

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        1 year ago

        But what if i ask her to touch me more and she say “what a fuck”? This is the point, i don’t feel assaulted only confused by an act that can be or bully or not.

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      1 year ago

      I think you’re assuming a scenario here that is very likely not to be the case

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        1 year ago

        He literally said he was spanked on the butt without his consent. No assumptions were made here period.

        This is the reason why male sexual assault isn’t taken seriously, and why male victims have even less recourse then female victims. Anytime a man is assaulted, it’s always brushed off as ‘it’s not a big deal’ or ‘it doesn’t count cause she’s a girl’ or ‘man up and just take it’, often by other men. It’s as if consent stops mattering if you have a penis or are male identifying.

        Imagine if the genders were reversed and how outraged you would be. As a woman who has had this exact thing done to me before, I know. It’s not a matter of how much it hurts to be spanked, it’s a matter of losing your agency over your own body and feeling like a piece of meat.

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          Additionally, if it wasn’t on his ass it’d still be battery. Sexual assault is pretty clearly defined to include slapping someone’s ass and, just generally, don’t touch other people.

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          1 year ago

          Yes exactly I am really confused, I always try to see the positive in the next one. That gesture I saw as a friendly spanking among soldiers, but then that “No You Can’t” left me confused, like she actually wanted to humiliate me.